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Looking into the causes of your pain and/or anger, understanding them, and
forgiving those who inflicted them can be painful in itself. You may come to
realize that someone you trusted, someone who was supposed to help and protect
you, violated you. Allow yourself to feel it and talk about whatever you feel.
Sometimes this can be very difficult and overwhelming, but it is a necessary
part of the healing process. This is precisely what you needed to do but were
unable to do when it occurred. At this point going and talking to that person
may be inappropriate or impossible. Ask the Lord for wisdom to know how best
to approach this. In time, you will get to the point of forgiving the person(s).
This can be the most difficult of all but it is absolutely necessary to truly
heal from your depression. You may feel the person doesn't deserve your forgiveness,
or that the pain or anger they caused you has been so devastating and overwhelming
that you can't possibly forgive them. No, on your own you can't. Staying in
the Word and asking the Lord to help you with this is a must. Until you forgive
you are still victimized by what you went through. Forgiveness is the Biblical
path to freedom. Many people have found it helpful to remember our example,
Jesus. If anyone had the right to be angry and bitter, he did. Having done nothing
wrong, those who hated him demanded his crucifixion. They beat him, mocked him,
hit him, bound him, tore his beard from his face, put a crown of thorns on his
head, made him carry his own cross, and then pounded 7" roman spikes into
his wrists and feet. His nervous system was shattered and every move to try
to breathe brought balls of fiery pain all through his body . The Bible says
that when they dropped his heavy cross into the ground all his bones went out
of joint. On the human level he would seem to have every right to feel anger
toward these men and call down fire from heaven to destroy them. But what does
Jesus do? He asks his Father to forgive them! Let him be our example. Forgiveness
can be very difficult. It can sometimes take a long time for us to get to the
point in the healing process where it happens, but with God's help it is possible.
Once again, you need to stay in the Word and very likely get help from a qualified
person in order to do so.
It is not easy to deal with depression, but thanks be to God, you will make
it through as you keep reading and studying the Bible and continue to see a
competent person who can help you. "Thanks be to God who gives us the victory
through our Lord Jesus Christ".
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