Teaching Your Child About Sexual Abuse

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Satan, the old deciever, would love for you to believe that if you talk to your child you will scare her. Psalm 94:14-17 For the LORD will not cast off his people, neither will he forsake his inheritance. But judgment shall return unto righteousness: and all the upright in heart shall follow it. Who will rise up for me against the evildoers? or who will stand up for me against the workers of iniquity? Unless the LORD had been my help, my soul had almost dwelt in silence.

Believing that the best way to prevent (word omitted) abuse is to be forewarned, I'ld like to first consider who should talk to your child. The person that needs to talk to your child is you. Proverbs 1:8-10 My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother: For they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck. My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not.

You know the terminology that is used in your home for various body parts. You've been handling your child's intimate personal hygiene all of her life. Your child has learned or will learn from you about looking both ways before she crosses a street, about walking instead of running for safety, about not sticking things in electrical outlets, about always buckling seat belts, and about don't touch that's hot. In other words everyday you teach your child about safety and about her body. Your child is use to you talking to her, so she is comfortable with you.

When you are talking to your child allow sufficient un-interrupted time for you and your daughter to communicate. You should talk to each child in the family alone. If a child asks a question in the presense of her siblings then openly answer the question. Your child has just told you that she is comfortable with her siblings around. Sometimes the question is one that you must answer in private. Then you need to say something like, Sally, that is a very important question. Let me think about it for a little while and then we'll talk. That allows you time to plan to be alone with your daughter so you can answer her question, but you must follow through, repeat her question to her, ask her what she thinks. Talk to her confidently with a smile on your face, so that she sees that you are comfortable and accepting of her question. Then honestly answer her question.

As a teenager I was at a Church Teen/College Seminar. In the evening something was said about singing from your diaphragm. Two college couples were overcome with laughter. I knew about the diaphragm muscle beneath the lungs so I figured there was something else that was called a diaphragm. I asked my Mom and Dad when I got home. My Mom calmly looked at me and said, "That is something that you don't need to know about right now. Will you trust me to tell you about it when you are a little older?" It was the perfect answer for me at that time.

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