Why Children Don't Tell

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Many children are far too young to understand what has happened to him/her. Unable to communicate verbally what has happened. Remember (word omitted) abuse knows no age limits. Unfortunately, it can and does happen to even the smallest of children whom are only weeks old.

Children are often threatened and or bribed by the abuser to keep the abuse a secret just between the two of them. It is a scarey thing for a child to have their life or the lives of family members threatened if the tell the secret. Often they are afraid that even if they do tell no one will believe them. We must prove them wrong. It is very rare that young children lie about (word omitted) abuse. You must let them know you believe them. Assure them it is not their fault, they did nothing wrong and they are not being punished. This kind of attention can be confusing, causing them to feel ashamed and embarrassed and stirring up mixed emotions especially if it is someone they know, love and trust. They then worry about getting into trouble themselves or getting a loved one into trouble
---Children Are Worth saving…. C.A.W.S. ---caws.com

Matthew 19:14 But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.

Lack Of Family Support/Denial

Quoted from Broken Spirits Network

"Accepting the fact that you or someone you love is in an abusive relationship is very difficult, and often times we do anything we can to push that possibility away. We would all like to believe that it "can't happen to us/those around us" but unfortunately, it can and it does. A common defense mechanism for friends and family of abuse victims is pretending that the abuse is not taking place. Friends and family attempt to change the subject, become upset once the topic is unavoidable, and even accuse the victim of lying. Although I know this is not the case in every situation, I also know that it happens more often than not. Through this system of lack of support or denial the victim becomes more isolated, and eventually more connected to their abuser. Once this feeling of isolation has thoroughly sunk in the mind of an abuse vicitm, it becomes even more difficult to leave. An abuser has a powerful hold on their victim, and without assistance from family or friends, that hold can become almost unbreakable.

Children often do not tell us with words that they have been (word omitted) abused or that they have successfully resisted an assault and don't know quite what to do next. There are many reasons children might hesitate or be afraid to tell us about what has happened, including their relationship to the offender, fear of the consequences, retaliation or uncertainty about whether or not they will be believed.

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