1. The first thing that can ruin a marriage is to enter into it with the Cinderella attitude "And They Lived Happily Ever After." I don’t care who you are or how great you think your relationship together is, once you set up housekeeping together you will soon discover that you have different ideas about some things. Now the way to ruin your marriage is to never compromise your way of doing things, and take on the attitude that your way is the only way or else. Forget Philippians 2:3-4 "Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others."
   
   
   
2. Another way to ruin your marriage is to ignore your husband’s "requests" whether it is in the way you spend your money or your time, or in the friends that you choose to run around with. After all, we can rationalize within ourselves, he doesn’t always spend his money wisely nor use his time productively, and those friends of his are impossible so you have a right to do as you please. Who does he think he is anyway trying to tell you what to do? You have your rights no matter what the Bible says in Titus 2:5 "To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."
   
   
3. There are several ways you can ruin a marriage if you will only try. How about "nit picking" for example, just as soon as he walks in the door? Nagging and complaining all the time gets great results in the process of trying to ruin your marriage. Set around all afternoon and watch soap operas so that you can see how much character your husband really lacks compared to those hunks on TV, and -- oh yes- don’t forget to have those wonderful chats with your friends comparing notes on how lousy your husbands are. Those talks always gear you up so when your husband comes home you can lash out at him for being such a "let down" compared to that good looking guy on "As the Stomach Turns," or to that husband down the street who never forgets an anniversary. These are great ways to ruin your marriage, and show that man you don’t really need him. Who cares about Titus 2:4 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children."
   
   
4. Here is a fantastic way to ruin your marriage. How about criticizing him at every turn. Tell him how dumb he is. And let him know you don’t have any confidence in his abilities to get ahead. Really "pour it on" by comparing him to all the other guys you know who have accomplished more than your husband ever could, and no matter what-never say you are sorry! Totally ignore I Thessalonians 5 11&13 "Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do, and to esteem them very highly in love for their work’s sake. And be at peace among yourselves."
   
   
5. You can ruin your marriage by withholding your body. Use it as a tool to get your own way, and if he doesn’t do things your way, then he can go without! It’s a good way to show him who is in control. What difference does it make if you disobey I Corinthians 7:4-5 "The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and praying; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency."
   
   
6. There are plenty of ways to ruin your marriage if you just put your mind to it. How about letting go of your appearance? After all, you’ve already got him so why take such pains to dress up for him? Go ahead and sleep all day if you want. So what if your husband comes home from work to find you still in your bathrobe, and curlers in your hair. He certainly can’t expect you to slave over a hot stove all day so he can have a seven-course meal waiting for him when he comes home! Why bother to keep physically fit either? Who are you trying to impress anyway? As for the house, hey-if he can’t pick up after himself, it’s certainly not your job to do it. Besides a little dirt never hurt anyone. What does your husband expect out of you anyway? You’re not his slave. Whatever you do, don’t pay any attention to Proverbs 14:1 "Every wise woman buildeth her house; but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands." There sure are a lot of ways you can make that man regret the day he ever laid eyes on you, aren’t there? Good luck!

Matthew 19:6 "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder:"

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