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Example: My child falls, breaks his leg, I am home alone with the car, I take him to the hospital and get everything fixed. Daddy comes home and I relate the story to him with all the accompanying angst and drama and his response is: "He looks ok to me now, what’s for dinner?"

You want to strangle him. In days gone by, at the next quilting bee, you would share this same story in the same way and every woman there would hug you, pat your hand and her comment would be: "Oh, my goodness, how bad was the break? Was the traffic bad on the way there? Did he cry long? How long does he have to wear the cast? Let me come over Wednesday and help you get some things done, I know you’ll be busy with your little patient".....

See the difference? You are comforted by the other women’s response and aggravated by your husband’s, and your husband’s response was not WRONG, just DIFFERENT. Who do you get your comfort from if you don’t have other women to be with on a regular basis?

Of course, our ultimate comfort should come from the Lord, but when you need comfort with skin on, sometimes a compassionate co-worker, ministry leader or pastor can stand in the gap, leaving your hubby looking like yesterday’s trash.

 MANY preachers who are zealous and passionate, and with seemingly feminine qualities come to my mind. They are NOT prissy or effeminate in any way, but they are very excitable, passionate in what they believe in and how they get that message across. With some, this is just the way they preach, it is their "public personna". I have heard some men thunder from the pulpit with such force and zeal, that I was thankful I was not HIS wife, but have discovered upon meeting this man afterwards, that he is so shy in his "real life", that he can’t even initiate a conversation.   

However, there is the occasional man who is that way in and OUT of the pulpit. Some women are exceedingly drawn to this type of preacher, or person in general. He can give their life the excitement it does not have at home. I myself have been found willing to give up many hours of drudgery at home, by serving in a ministry that is led by a man like this. I believe we need to be VERY careful. Many women can give away their heart and the best part of themselves while leaving thier husband’s and children at home with the leftovers. After the excitement and thrill of working in an enviornment with this type of man, many women will want to go home and throw rocks at their relationship’s with their husbands. The sad part of all of this is they will do this all in the name of Christ and His work.

In Titus 2, one of the admonitions from Paul to the aged women was to teach the younger women ".....to love their husbands, to love their children...". The word love here is used in the agape sense of the word, to have that deep abiding love for our families. The other familiar term we use as "love" is to treat affectionately, to welcome, to befriend. It is the second definition of this word I believe many people use today, when referring to the feelings they have for their pastor.

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