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This is the same situation we see time and time throughout the Bible. I think specifically of the story of Dorcas in Acts 9:39-43. It is the widows (women) we see running up to Peter with the beautiful coats that Docas had made, lamenting that she was now gone and how much they would miss her. This was a purely emotional reaction to the loss of a good friend. Peter on the other hand did the very practical, logical and unemotional man thing, reached down and raised her from the dead, and in my minds eye I see him doing this so these crying emotional women would just cease their weeping. Nowhere in this account do I see any emotion on the part of Peter.    He simply did what he needed to do, no emotion added. Even in the movie "My Fair Lady", Dr. Henry Higgins laments in song about the fair Eliza...."why can’t a woman be more like a man?" Truly this is a dilemma that crosses all social, economic and cultural borders.

Women throughout history gathered together OFTEN. This is where this sharing of how to love your husbands, how to love your children, how to be sober, how to be obedient , and how to be keepers at home occurred. It was where women’s EMOTIONAL needs were met. Ladies, it is IMPOSSIBLE for our husbands to meet ALL of our emotional needs. If a husband is doing HIS duties the way he is supposed to biblically, then he is gone a good part of the day, providing for the family. This is God’s plan. A man is called to his work, and a woman is called to her man. Women gathered in groups for emotional support and to exchange information. 

Let me give you another example from my own life. I have learned many things about keeping the home from my mother. I have learned yet OTHER, different things from other women in my life about basic, simple domestic chores. One time I got a call from a young lady, a very close friend of mine. She had a question about how to tell if something she had been storing in her refrigerator had gone bad. This seemed like a very ridiculous question, but then I thought..."you know, her mother lives in a far away state, she has no family here, has lived here since right after she got married, and really was not involved in any ladies group in the church where she could ask that type of question and not be laughed at."......so I just told her what MY MOTHER HAD TAUGHT ME about that situation, and her response was, "Oh, that makes sense"....end of discussion. Can you imagine the response if she had asked her husband? Not that this was an emotional topic, but it certainly would be considered a topic involving only "the keepers of the home".

Today’s society has changed in how we get information and where we get our comfort. We no longer live on the same property as many of our extended relatives. We do not talk face to face with others on any type of a regular basis unless we work outside the home. We are constantly in touch with each other via email, fax, modem, cellphone, telephone, internet, pagers, instant messaging and the occasional letter delivered snail mail. I have never heard sympathy over my email, seen a tear drop fall from a fax, or feel the warm touch of someone's have via cellphone.

Don’t get me wrong, I have most of these fancy new high tech communication devices and I use them often. You are able to read this today due to the technological wonder of the World Wide Web. But nothing, I repeat NOTHING will ever replace women gathering together with other women for emotional support, to exchange information and to just commune together as only women can do.

I end this discussion with the answer I think the Bible would give about why the stay at home wife and mother was most likely to have the extra marital affair. I think she was lonely, isolated and craved the emotional exchange that only being with other women can answer. She loved her husband, she loved her children, she loved her home, yet something was missing. I contend that she needed to join a Bible study, go to a Tupperware party, join a ladies bowling league, host a ladies tea, do SOMETHING with other women on a regular basis. These things would have completed her life and fulfilled the emotional needs her husband could not meet. She would not have the need to spend too many hours working in a ministry trying to fill that void that could have been filled by fellowship with other women, with the same emotional needs as she had.

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