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For Strong Marriages
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Dear Friends,
It was a couple of years ago, as I was talking to my husband before he
left for work, that I asked him the following question. It was a question
that a friend had asked me the day before, and I felt like my husband
would be able to give her the answer that she was really looking for.
"Dave," I said to him on that day, "What do you think
a good woman can do to become a great wife to her husband?"
"That's an easy question to answer," he replied, quickly, and
without giving it much thought, "She can find out what her husband
likes and do it."
"That's it???" I questioned, not quite believing that being
a good wife could be achieved so easily.
"Yes, Julie, that's it. That is all that any woman needs to do to
become a great wife to her husband."
As my husband left that day, I knew that what he said was true. It was
the same thing that God had been telling women for years. "Wives,
submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord," he tells
us clearly in His Word. And then He even goes on to tell us why ~ "For
the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the
church: and he is the saviour of the body." Wives are supposed to
do the things that please their husbands. It's that simple.
It's just not always that easy, is it? After all, if we are going to
"find out what our husband likes and do it", we are not going
to be able to follow the instructions and advice in those nicely written
marriage manuals that we have at home. You know, the ones that are written
by our favorite author and are filled with our favorite ideas for a good
marriage. And if we are going to commit ourselves to doing things "his
way" ~ cooking the meals he likes, dressing like he wants us too,
running the home according to his schedule, allowing him to manage the
money, and raising the kids the way he thinks is best . . . we are not
going to be able to control our home, our children, our money, and our
lives like we are so used to doing.
Real submission to our husbands is simple ladies, but it isn't going
to be easy. If we are going to be good wives to our husbands, we are going
to have to put away all those marriage manuals, turn a deaf ear to all
the advice from our favorite friends and speakers, and die to our own
desire to control and turn our hearts and minds towards our husbands,
and spend time finding out what our husbands really like. We will need
to spend our time studying them, listening to them, and allowing them
to show us who they really are and how they want everything around them
run.
As a woman that has been married to the same man for twenty-one years,
I can tell you that truly submitting to your husband will not always be
easy . . . but it will always be worth it. As you see the happiness that
your submission brings to the heart of your husband, to the quality of
your marriage, and to the spirit of your home, you will be glad that you
put forth the effort.
May God bless you as you seek to be a good wife by making your husband
happy as you choose to make him your marriage manual.
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