Titus 2 Men And Women

God gives us the account of Tamar and Absalom to teach us that silence puts a sentence of depression, devastation and loneliness on the abuse victim.

Don’t be afraid to tell someone you have been violated. Don’t ever believe that you can just forget it and never be bothered by it again:  Don't stuff your emotions for they will one day surface and you will explode or implode if you don’t download.

I do not understand. I cannot comprehend how a child, teen or adult can be molested and get counsel from parents, spouses, and/or pastors NOT to report the crime...the c-r-i-m-e...the CRIME...to the police. I can understand why a victim is hesitant to tell--especially when it is a child or teen: It is common for sexual predators to threaten the lives of their victims and/or the lives of the victim’s parents and family. However, I cannot find any Biblical support for not reporting crimes to the proper authorities!

I wish this failure to report abuse only happened once in a ‘blue moon’. I wish I did not have to say it has become common practice.  I could write my heart--but instead I want to let scripture speak:
What does God say about living under the laws of our land?

(Word definitions from the Strong’s Concordance in parenthesis.)

Romans chapter 13 verse 1. 
"Let every soul be subject (obey) unto the higher powers (laws, jurisdiction). For there is no power (authority) but of God: the powers (freedom, magistrate, authority) that be are ordained (assigned, appointed) of God."

I Peter chapter 2. 
13. "Submit yourselves (be obedient) to every ordinance of man for the Lord's sake: whether it be to the king (foundation of power--judge, law of the land), as supreme;
14. Or unto governors (a leader), as unto them that are sent by him for the punishment (vindication, retribution, punishment) of evildoers (criminal--one committing a crime which is the breaking of a law of the land), and for the praise of them that do well.
15. For so is the will (purpose, desire) of God, that with well doing (duty) ye may put to silence the ignorance of foolish (ignorant, stupid, morally unbelieving) men:"

Silence puts a sentence of depression, devastation and loneliness on the abuse victim.
Don’t be afraid to tell someone you have been violated. Don’t stuff your emotions for they will one day surface and you will explode or implode if you don’t download. Tamar’s emotions were exceedingly damaged by her brother when he raped her. The Bible plainly teaches what this silence sentenced her to. 
"And Absalom her brother said unto her, Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? but hold now thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; regard not this thing. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house." II Samuel 13:20

Because her brother Absalom would not let her tell, a part of her remained internally desolate. Tamar listened to her brother, and did not tell her father the King or anyone else. She chose to remain silent..
Word definitions from the Strong’s Concordance taught me that Tamar remained numb/devastated/lonely/depressed because she chose to remain silent.

Is this true? Yes, I lived with internal desolation for the first 34 years of my life because I didn’t tell anyone my mother had abused me. Every woman I have counseled in the last twenty years that chose to remain silent has experienced that kind of desolation in her life.

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